Sex means something. It’s not just an itch to be scratched. It’s not an impulse. Science has elevated itself to believe that it is head of all life and love, but science is just a tool to explore the world around us. There is mystery that modern science will never be able to explain. You can’t dissect love or passion or romance or relationship. Those are areas of the heart that ring loud and clear in each of our beings. There are such deep mysteries that can never be fully explored in our hearts. Sex is one of those mysteries. It resonates deep within us. It echoes the desire of eternity.
Sex has deep meaning. It connects us deeply to another human being. That’s why it should be reserved for the marriage bed. An intense and very real emotional bond is formed when a man and woman have sex. Words fail to accurately describe this bond. It knits two souls together. Our hearts are woven together through more than a mere physical act.
Sure sex is physical…duh. But it’s far more. It’s like an iceberg. Most of the iceberg is beyond your vision. Only a small portion is visible. So is sex. The physical part is the part you can see, and it is glorious. But if the part we can see is glorious, imagine all the mysteries that are beyond our mere sight.
Sex is alluring and mystical. It is a wonderful union of hearts. It speaks of Heaven even and the passion that God has for His bride, the church. Just read the Song of Solomon in the Bible. Passion is woven into the fabric of our being. Without passion the color is drained from life.
The Song of Solomon is my favorite book of the Bible. It’s a beautiful story of pure passion, not some Hollywood romance that leaves you empty, but a real live romance between a peasant girl and a king. This oft forgotten book of the Bible is beauty and love and delight. You cannot read it and not feel the deep mystery of our sexuality.
Song of Solomon 7:6-10
6 How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights!
7 This thy stature is like to a palm tree, and thy breasts to clusters of grapes.
8 I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples;
9 And the roof of thy mouth like the best wine for my beloved, that goeth down sweetly, causing the lips of those that are asleep to speak.
10 I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me.
Song of Solomon 8:6-7
6 Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame.
7 Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned
Such passion and these are but two verses of the whole. Sex is beautiful. Sex is an expression of love. Sex is called passionate love. Sex should be an overflow of such deep and magical love that flourishes divine within the bed chambers of a strong life-long commitment to the one you marry.
Marriage too is more than just a piece of paper. It is a mystifying commitment to another human being that goes way beyond mere words. That’s why the world can’t fully grasp the concept of marriage and they taint it with many perversions. It’s deep. Marriage is a bond sanctioned by God Himself. Marriage can never be defined by mankind, because they didn’t invent marriage. Marriage is a beautiful union that arose out of the deep places of God. That’s why marriage is always in the “sight of God”.
God loves marriage, just like God loves sex. He designed both. They are His masterpieces. God chose sex to be encapsulated by the beautiful public and private commitment that is marriage. Sex is delight, but it’s also vulnerability. It’s exposing one’s full body to another. It’s not hiding behind any more veils. When we have sex we expose our desire and passion but in our nakedness we expose our hearts, our tender vulnerability. The beauty that is marriage provides a safe and strong fortress for the tender yet passionate mystery that is sex.
In sex we are truly naked. Not only our bodies, but our hearts are laid bare. We are seen. We are known. Will we be loved? Will we be delighted in? That’s why sex means something. Our proverbial fig leaves are laid aside. Sex is a beautiful secret that should only be shared with someone who truly loves us. And if someone truly…truly loves us, then the strong life-long commitment of marriage will be an easy leap.
Marriage and sex are mysteries that defy logic and reason. They can be guided with the mind but never understood there. They must be lived! They must be savored! They must be loved! Unless you love marriage and unless you love sex, you have no business there. They are not for the faint of heart. They are for those passionate enough to love life and love God and love another.
Sex although deep and mysterious is also playful and whimsical, but it is never meaningless.