What is it about femininity that invites us closer? Truly, the heart of pure femininity seems to be invitation. From our earliest years as children, we feel invited into our mother’s loving arms. We feel welcome and invited and loved. Especially as a little boy, our mom feels like home. She is a warm safe haven as we are invited into her heart. Or maybe our grandmother, or even an aunt, made you feel safe and cherished as they invited you into the warmth of their hearts.

Then as we grow up the aroma of femininity calls to us though in a much different way, a much more intimate way, a much more wild way. Our masculine hearts are invited by a glance of the eyes, the softness of a touch (I mean really when you are first touched by a woman you admire, it feels like her touch must be what heaven feels like!), or the curves of her feminine form. Our mothers or grandmothers, offered us someplace safe and warm, much like a warm cabin in the snowy mountains. But this attraction to the opposite sex is similar but altogether different. This invitation to femininity is to be compared to a condo on the beach in Maui, full of livid music that makes you want to dance, and exotic delicacies to whet your appetite, while wild spices waft on the ocean breeze.

God created us male and female in the beginning. And what most people don’t realize is that immediately before or after the Bible declares this, it also declares that in His image He created them. So both masculinity and femininity both reflect unique facets of the image of God. Both masculine and feminine can express the image of God as the other sex cannot. We both offer something to the world that the other sex simply cannot. And Femininity reflects all the warmth and safety of our God that we know as small children, as well as the wildness and deep mystery, we grow to know and behold in the opposite sex as our love ripens .

Truly Femininity is a deep mystery that invites our masculine hearts inside. Just as the physical often reflects the emotional or even the supernatural, so we long to accept the invitation of femininity as enter in. What happens physically in sex is a glorious foretaste of what is happening in our hearts and souls. When a woman invites a man inside her, she invites him into her very core. And that is what we long for…

We long to be inside of the mystery and delight that is femininity. We long to offer our masculinity to a woman in a great love affair. We long to be one. And indeed we were made by our Wild and Passionate Creator to be united again. As masculinity and femininity both reflect the heart and soul of the Ancient of Days, so we are most fulfilled as men and women when we are one with opposite sex and even most resemble the heart of our God, as masculine and feminine are reunited in the dance of beauty and strength.

And so too, God’s heart is warm and inviting, as He offered up His only Son, in the most intimate act ever to grace this world. The part of God’s heart that comes forth in the reflection of femininity is a wild invitation to enter into the mystery that is God. Yes, God is strong and kind and protective and the most valiant of warriors as masculinity shows us, but He is also soft and warm, and the most inviting place there is. And as everything in the physical ultimately reflects the supernatural, God invites us into His very being to share in His mysteries and wonders that our hearts are intimately made for and lovingly crafted to savor. As man is not truly satisfied until he is one with femininity so to we will not be truly happy in the deepest sense until we have entered into all that God is. God is invitation. All through the Bible He is inviting us into mystery, and wonder, losing ourselves and finding something much greater in return. Will you accept His invitation?



Let me kiss you with tender lips

nibbling gently on your fingertips

Let me feel your velvet thighs

‘neath stars and  moonlit skies

Love spoken softly into your ear

as I caress away each fear

soft light falls upon your breasts

as stars twinkle in heaven’s rest

I drink you in like sweetest wine

your breasts so full , like grapes on the vine

sweetly, I perch above your frame

from my lips escapes your name

your body tempts me with delights

as can only be filled amidst the night

I take my prize and enter in,

as you quiver beneath my skin,

the rhythm of passion becomes our song,

as our souls to each belong

your nipples rise underneath my kiss,

as I thrust into your warm wet bliss

Taunt our bodies writhe in passion,

while we feast on love’s sweet ration,

tension mounts between our thighs,

as Eros gazes through envious eyes,

till liquid love in you does rain,

the heaven’s sing a feral refrain

as I feel you grip my very core,

wanting less desiring more

our bodies quiver beneath the sheets,

as we lay with one heartbeat

I kiss you gently upon tender lips,

my fingers trace the curve of your hips,

lost tonight in love’s sweet charms,

we fall asleep in each other’s arms

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naughty nature 2


Naked…something so innocent and innocuous yet so indecent and so intolerable. All of us remember sometime in our life when being naked was blissful or exciting. Some part of our hearts knew we were made to be enjoyed. We may have run around naked as little children without a care in the world. Some of us (author included) remember unveiling ourselves as a small child to someone else, thinking that they would be as fascinated with our bodies as we were. We knew down deep that there was something grand and glorious about us that the world wanted… no not just wanted, but needed to see, to behold.

Then there was the arrow that pierced our innocent hearts. “What we cover with our clothes is shameful… dangerous even…”

Usually we find this out with by the sneer on someone’s face, the whipping on our bottom, a shriek by someone whom we thought would be delighted, verbal abuse and scorn instead of praise… and so we come to believe that what we hide under our cotton and denim veils each day is either completely unpraiseworthy and bland or else something dangerous and horrible. Our glory becomes our shame.

But remember better days, (here let me acknowledge all those who might not be able to remember better days, all the sexually abused, whose beauty and innocence were preyed upon when they should have been protected. You are not forgotten. You did nothing wrong. You are NOT to blame and neither is your nudity. Your body is good and beautiful, not tainted. The abuser is the tainted one. Whoever could abuse a child is an evil of the worst kind and deserves the death penalty. They are to blame, not you dear one…) remember with me for a moment when you truly believed that you were hiding something glorious with your clothing. Remember the thrill that something beautiful and exciting lay just a tapestry of fabric away. Can you remember the excitement? the anticipation? that edge of naughtiness that felt like true genuine goodness and not like something vulgar or obscene?

I was going to discuss the morality of nudity, but bear with me for a blog, as we just let our hearts remember, something fantastic that we at one time knew. Our bodies are a beautiful secret. I know it may be difficult to apply this to your body now, after all the shame, or hurt, or age, but its true. When God created the world, including one naked man and one naked woman, he gave it His highest praise, “It is very good!” All the preceding days and events of creation earned God’s approval of “good” but when Adam and Eve, were added, completely naked and unashamed, God’s approval swelled to “very good”.

The Bible talks a lot about the Glory of God and for all that I’ve read, I believe that God’s Glory is much like our nudity. God has a secret beauty that He won’t reveal to just anyone except His Bride, the church. We too as image bearers of our God, have a glory to share. And Jesus told us to Grow Down. He said that we must become like little children to enter the Kingdom of Heaven. I believe that part of that growing down is realizing that we too possess a glory like God’s Glory, never greater than His Glory, but because we are created in His image, I believe it to be truly amazing and remarkable similar. God is the most beautiful being in all of creation and one day we will all bask in His Glory. He won’t have to veil it anymore according to the apostle Paul. “And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.”. (2 Corinthians 3:18 NIV).

But for now lets keep it simple, let your heart remember being naked. Nudity is all about the heart. When I see a naked woman, something deep inside me yearns for glory and beauty for goodness and wildness, for deep draughts of the Glory of God. You can accuse me of being a hypocrite or a pervert or liar or heretic, but when I see nudity deep calls to deeps within my soul. I long to know and be known. I long to revel in the beauty and my childlike heart still longs for someone to recognize the beauty that my body has to offer as well. I want to skinny dip and run naked through a cool spring forest. I want women to peak and gaze with naked curiosity and desire (not lust but simple desire). I believe every human being wants this. There may be a ton of clutter that covers even that “naked” desire” but I know that everyone wants to be admired in all their glory.

We all pretend everyday. We pretend to be above such childlike fancies, but why all the fascination with nudity, sex, and sexuality? Why are we sexual to our core (masculine and feminine)? Why does sex sell? Why do many of the stories that we keep of feeling truly “alive” have to do with being naked? My wife, used to go with several of her college friends, down to the local beach, and cast off their clothes and play naked in the surf. She is a writer and one of her best pieces tells of a group of women casting off all their clothes and dancing naked underneath the moonlight. Then as icing on the cake, my mom and her ultra-ultra conservative friend read her story and they both had glowing praise for it. These two ladies have always been exemplary Christians and always dressed modestly, yet something inside them both seemed to come alive after reading my wife’s short story.

Anyone who reads my blogs or knows me knows that I don’t condone nudism (both sexes mingling freely without clothes) because of our fallen nature, I consider it unwise to say the least. But even in our fallen world I believe that nudity within a safe environment is one of the greatest reminders of life and delight and the world to come.

Just listen for a moment to that deep desire within. You possess a beauty that is captivating. We may only be able to enjoy it in limited spaces here, but when God restores all things, our glory and His will be openly displayed, we will truly be naked and unashamed again…



Ok, I think this is one thing that needs some attention.  Somewhere at sometime, people started thinking that whoever you are married to, that person is supposed to be the most gorgeous woman (or the most handsome man if you are a woman reading this) that you have or will have ever seen. That’s just doesn’t make sense. It puts all this incredible pressure on your marriage.

Let me illustrate. My first semester at college, there was this gorgeous specimen of a woman in my math class. I thought she was a goddess. She was very stunning. Long brunette hair, long legs, wonderful figure, She could have been a model. Then there was this pretty girl that I sat next to. She was cute. Medium everything. And by most “standards” of beauty probably a little dumpy, especially next to the “goddess”.

By the end of the semester, the long legged curvy goddess was still pretty, but somehow (and it wasn’t because she was rude or ill tempered etc.) she didn’t capture my imaginations and my heart. But all through the semester, I had almost fallen in love with this other girl whom most men and women would consider “average”. I say almost fallen in love with because I could tell that this girl did not return my affections. She was in love and engaged to some other man.

I always thought it odd all these years how a girl that I had equated with a goddess could have fallen to the status of mere mortal by a few months time. Her beauty had not changed, only how her beauty had affected my affections. (Btw, the other “average” girl that I was smitten with … well nothing ever came of that, just in case you were wondering). The really odd thing about this story was another girl that I didn’t even really notice in the romantic sense from that same class and that same semester was the girl who seven years later became my wife.

The point I am trying to make is that what we see as beautiful actually fluctuates. And there is all this pressure to be married to the “most beautiful woman on the planet”. We even feel that if we see another girl who captures our attention and we feel to be more beautiful than our spouse, then we feel guilty. I think this even puts tons of undue pressure on our wives or girlfriends, because let’s face it, everyone one of us is getting older. As the years go by, we age, due to our fallen world (Genesis 3). I know I can’t compete with all the hunks that reach peak maturity each year. I’m no muscle bound athlete. If my wife were completely honest she would have to acknowledge that some new Hollywood stud or some new athlete of the year were much more physically appealing that I am. And I’m not saying that I’m unattractive. It’s just no one can compete in ” the most beautiful person on earth” contest, because they’ll always come along somebody who’s the new sensation.

I say all this to hopefully free you up. I think there are all these husbands and wives out there who think just because there is some other people that they find attractive, they  think that they are doing their spouse an injustice. Even worse some people even leave their loving spouse because they find someone who tickles their fancy more than their spouse does at the moment.

We need to get off this hamster wheel, because it’s going nowhere.

Lastly, just because you see someone who you think looks hotter than your spouse does, don’t ever tell your spouse (I know this comment is hopefully a no brainer, or if it isn’t it will be a you’re about to sleep aloner), that creates a different kind of hurt and pressure.

I just think that it’s good to just know this fact. Attraction fluctuates. Love your spouse for who they are inside and out. Remember that they see other people too who may tickle their fancy more than you do. Don’t ditch your spouse because you find a sleeker model. A lot of our attraction comes from the heart anyway (as in my story above), it’s not all about the physical. That’s just a piece of the whole.

My wife and I have aged almost half our lives (18 years) from when we first met, we’ve started dating almost 12 years ago, and we’ve been married over 10 years. Sure each day I see new pretty faces all around, but there is a part of me that each time I see my wife I do see her as the prettiest girl in the world. We’ve both gained quite a few pounds since we were scrawny 18 year olds, we’ve got some wrinkles and some gray and white hairs starting to come up now, but I love my wife, I think she’s lovely and everything that is her, calls out to everything that is me every day. We’ve weathered some of the roughest storms a couple can endure by God’s Grace. Even though there will always be some new girls who are at their prime (as well as new guys that my wife sees I’m sure) my wife is the most beautiful because of all the reasons that my heart knows how to reason and love.

Anyway, don’t let it bother you that there are always pretty new faces… and bodies. Just enjoy the one that God gave you to enjoy. Sure we can appreciate the beauty and wonder around us and it may turn our heads, but don’t let it turn your heart😉


Sepia Beach

Do you remember when life was full of longing? Honestly, most days I find some way to numb myself up, endless t.v., losing myself in hobbies like writing, gardening, or learning something new (at the moment my wife and I are taking Hebrew at a local synagogue, I’ve always wanted to learn Hebrew so I could read the Bible in some of the original language). Like most of us, I numb myself by eating too. The pain of life can be difficult to bear. Who hasn’t endured loss? and the longer you live the more losses you accumulate. But sometimes amid all the loss and pain and numbness, something breaks through… longing.

When I was a child, I dreamed that one day I’d be madly in love and live happily ever after! The thought of my mom dying seemed like it would be millions of years away and the thought of losing all my family would have seemed ludicrous. I try to keep my dreams alive, but it is difficult finding that longing that permeated my youth. After all I’m married now, and as wonderful as marriage can be, it can be very difficult as well, and we all come to realize that marriage isn’t the fix-all that we were hoping for. But the moments when longings, and romance break through and enchant my heart once again, it takes me by surprise! I have this hope, kind of like the movie “Pan’s Labyrinth, that even though the world I live in is dark dark indeed, that someone strong and kind is pursuing me. I have this longing that the passion of my youth is reality and this darkness that life is right now, is really just the length of a bad dream. When I wake up, I’ll behold that which I’ve always longed for and hoped for.

Sepia undressing

I still remember my first time. I think the image is branded into  your memory. I’m talking about in person btw, not just in a magazine. I had decided with much excitement and trepidation that I was going to go to our local strip club. I remember being so intimidated heading into the building with the blacked out windows. My excitement was of the highest order. There are certain times in life that are just intoxicating. It could be your first kiss, the first time you saw someone naked, the first time you had sex, or the first time you held hands even. There are just certain moments in time when there is this heady intoxication with life and beauty and mystery and sensuality with the opposite sex. These moments break up the ho hum ordinariness of life with something beyond words.

I still remember the rush of going into the building and finding a place to sit. A girl was on stage but she was in lingerie. I don’t remember her, but while I was sitting there taking in the unique atmosphere, another of the girls was walking around totally topless and wearing nothing but panties and those stage shoes. She passed right in front of me and I felt that I could sense every inch of her breasts as they hung beautifully and mesmerizing beside me. Everything about me was lost in the moment of exhilaration and wonder. Her butt, her legs, her breasts, her hair and all her femininity screamed out to my masculine heart. Beauty beyond words captured the whole attention of my being. Then as quickly as she walked right in front of me talking to someone, just as quickly she disappeared back into a room.

Even though I enjoyed the whole display of women that night, that first nude woman that was only inches from me is still burned into my soul…

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I just wanted to say sorry to everyone who has commented in the last few months. I have not answered or replied back yet. I’ve had to cut my relationship with my dad. He’s been an abuser since I can remember. My mom died a few years ago and I tried hard for the last three years to still have some relationship to my remaining parent. But it was tearing me apart, still constantly getting berated continually and verbally assaulted without mercy. Then he started berating my wife and finally decided to smash my car wind shield in, with me inside of it. I know many people have a “you only got one dad” policy which works in some less volatile situations, but I finally realized that I don’t deserve to be treated like a dog. So that’s why I haven’t been faithful to this site. Honestly, I’ve been battling depression as a result of all this, and normally that isn’t something that assails me. Please pray for me, I covet your prayers. It was the hardest decision of my life. Everyone wants a dad who loves them and will be proud of them and show them what it really means to be a good Christian man. My heart is shattered and I’m asking my real Father in Heaven to pick up the pieces.

Sex screams the existence of Jesus

Sex screams the existence of Jesus

I wrote a blog similar to this one before, but it still resonates strong within me. I really enjoy reading books on Christian apologetics. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the term, apologetics is material written or spoken in defense of the Gospel. It is an offensive stance that proudly proclaims the truth of the Bible. Years ago when Christianity was first spreading across the known world, many lies or rumors started circulating about Christians. One of the many things said was that Christians sacrificed their children to God. Obviously, this was completely untrue. There were many others things said against us Christians, even that we were atheists because we didn’t have an idol that we worshiped. So they accused us of being atheists, which was a big no-no in the Roman Empire. So God raised up many wonderful people who stood up and told the truth about Christians and defended our faith against the hate-filled lies and propaganda. Men like Justin Martyr and Augustine stood up and defended the faith with the truth. Apologetics also deals with the general defense of the gospel. Men like Ken Ham and C.S. Lewis show that the Gospel is the most reasonable and logical and true way to live and love. I’ve been devouring the Answers Books compiled by Ken Ham recently, which show through reason, logic and actual science (not fantasy and stupid assumptions) that the Bible is true from cover to cover.
This blog of course is devoted to the Bible and sexuality. I don’t believe that things that are not prohibited in the Bible should be abstained from in the present. Why make up a bunch of rules that God didn’t speak?
Sexuality is very fascinating for many reasons. Lately, I’ve noticed that all human sexuality is screaming in defense of the Bible. We are told some science fiction called evolution (molecules to man) is the reason that we exist. The best lies are those mixed with some facts. Evolution is no different. It takes a few facts such as natural selection and then throws in completely unprovable and just plain stupid assumptions about the origin of man. There are many ways to disprove this lie, in Answers in Genesis ministries and Creation Research we have scores of actual science and logic that shows that only a foolish man would believe in evolution.
But the logic and passion of sex is another screaming in your face reminder that Jesus is, was and always will be. After America turned our backs on our creator in the sixties (outlawed prayer and Bible reading and study in the school system). The free love movement took place. People were encouraged to have sex with whomsoever other person that wanted to have sex with them. Free love. They even gave it a catchy title because we all desperately long for love. This philosophy was inevitable in a culture that denies God. When we threw God out of schools and public places a rush of barbaric practices rushed in to take the place of true love and morality. Free love was one of these barbaric practices. Yet, about fifty years after the supposed “sexual revolution”, people still need something to stand on that separates us from beasts. Even the most sexually deviant common citizens among us have a few “rules” that they live by. Of course there always have been and always will be “monsters” who lay aside every vestige of morality and prey and rape anything they can get their hands on, including children. But the overwhelming majority of people still have to try to create their own morality in the absence of God’s Word that once filled our schools. This is yet simply another logical and reasonable proof of a divinely created world that was framed by the word of God. People who sleep around may have rules such as never to take advantage of an unconscious person or drunken person. People who practice homosexuality, even have certain standards for sexuality. They break one of the most fundamental laws of human sexuality but still they must have some sort of standard that makes them feel moral and just. Most try to be loyal to one person. It’s like the phrase “honor among thieves”. People need some sense of order even when they live outside the perfect order that God shows us in His Word, the Bible. This overwhelming need for order and a form of moral code clearly screams the presence of Jesus. They don’t want to live by God’s Word so they invent their own morality so they can feel justified and somewhat moral. I’ve seen people who rabidly promote homosexuality, but then have a problem with someone doing something that isn’t wrong, like enjoying good pornography or nudity. Why? because they need some semblance to order, because they are created in the image of the God of order and not chaos. The Egyptians had many whacked up beliefs but they did believe the battle in the world was chaos verses order. God’s Word is order because He created us and the world we live in. When we don’t live by God’s Word we must have some sense of order or we feel unsafe and vulnerable. If evolution were true we would all be having sex with each other without the slightest sense of guilt or shame. We would have sex whenever we wanted with whomsoever we wanted and not feel anything tugging at our hearts. If evolution is true, why would any sexual act be wrong? Incest, rape, orgies, homosexual acts, having sex with animals, sex slaves (or slavery in general), prostitution, having sex with a dead body, and so on, should all be perfectly acceptable if evolution is true. But you see something completely different in the world. Even those who practice sexual sins try to create a morality that justifies the sin they are committing but says others actions are bad. Why do they do that? Because God created a beautiful and passionate world, but also an orderly and logical one as well. And the order and logical part of His world give us a safe and perfect place to enjoy the passions He has gloriously given to us. Sex like all other facets of creation scream that there is a God and His name is Jesus.



Men how do you feel when your girlfriend or wife is checking out some other guy? None of us are perfect, physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. So all of us have ample opportunities to feel insecure or scared when our girl is looking at other men’s bodies. My wife and I have our own unique relationship, as do we all. She wasn’t crazy about the idea of me watching porn, masturbating or going to strip clubs. I was honest and up front with her but once we got close to getting married, she got scared of my attraction to other women. Even though I’m a Christian and didn’t lust when I checked out other women, it still scared her. We went through a few years of oddness and still have a bit of uneasiness in our marriage in this area. In our discussions, I’ve wanted her to know how important she is to me, but also I’ve not wanted to give up something that I love only because she is insecure, if that makes sense. A few years back when we talked about strip clubs, I asked her to at least be fair and attend a club where she could see naked men. Then I could see how I felt and we could talk about where to go from there. But that has been probably four or more years ago and still she hasn’t really tried to go to a male strip club (though sadly for women who enjoy looking at naked men, there aren’t many heterosexual geared male strip clubs around). To me after I settled the matter of nudity, masturbation, and pornography on the moral issues, then I started wondering about those issues as they pertained to relationships. Obviously, there are things in relationships, where we don’t desire our spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend engaging in certain behaviors with the opposite sex. Of course due to the nature of this blog, all activities named as sin in the Bible are off limits. But what about things that aren’t sinful but still we consider “no-no’s” in our relationship. Most of us don’t want our spouse locking lips with someone else. Most of us don’t want our spouses holding hands or blowing kisses with someone of the opposite sex… or of any sex for that matter😉 . So the question of this blog post is geared more toward that effect. Men who enjoy looking at and enjoying the beauties of women, do you find it offensive or scary when your wife or girlfriend is admiring the physique of another man?