Gay Men and Women can Never Have Sex

Therefore, (according to the facts presented in my last post) —Homosexuals can NEVER participate in The Act of Marriage and thus can never consummate the physical act of Marriage.

Homosexuality is a sexual act but it can never be The Act of Sex (also called the Act of Marriage).

I’ve steered clear of most discussions about homosexuality. It’s widely discussed in a wide plethora of avenues and outlets. The Bible is clear in both Old and New Testaments about homosexuality being a sin.

The Bible isn’t as clear about other topics such as masturbation or nudity, or even polygamy, but it’s very clear that homosexuality is always considered a sin.

22 “ ‘Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable.

23 “ ‘Do not have sexual relations with an animal and defile yourself with it. A woman must not present herself to an animal to have sexual relations with it; that is a perversion.

24 “ ‘Do not defile yourselves in any of these ways, because this is how the nations that I am going to drive out before you became defiled.

—–Leviticus 18:22-24

18The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of people, who suppress the truth by their wickedness,
19 since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them.
20 For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.
21 For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened.
22 Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools
23 and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like a mortal human being and birds and animals and reptiles.
24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another.
25 They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.
26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones.
27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.
28 Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done.
29 They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips,
30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents;
31 they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy.
32 Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.

—–Romans 1:18-32

I included the longer passage from Romans because I believe the entire passage describes not only God’s feelings towards homosexuality but also His heartbreak and subsequent anger in turning over a people (like the nations of the West), who no longer like to retain the knowledge of God anymore —-over to this hard hearted prideful worldview that we see and witness unfolding before us each and every day.

Most all the once Christian nations have kicked Jesus out of our schools, our governments, our homes and our hearts… and we are receiving the just “fruit” of what we have sown… As Billy Graham once quoted “We have sown the wind and we will reap the whirlwind”.

With the Bible being clear about the subject of homosexuality, I found it interesting several years ago while thinking about the topic of the last blog post. When I was first learning about what the Bible does and does not say about sex and nudity and passion and pleasure, I learned where the “line” is.

Most young people who are Christians, want to know just where the actual line between sin and passion lies! Can we make out with our girlfriend? Is copping a feel a sin? What about stuff like blow jobs, going down on your girlfriend, or even anal sex. We find this incredible beautiful world of sex, romance and passion and we want desperately to know where the line actually is.

Some of us, like myself, read I Kissed Dating Goodbye ” by the now infidel Joshua Harris. I spent five years trying to “court” instead of date. I don’t regret those years of focusing on Jesus and going to the best Bible School ever, The Brownsville Revival School of Ministry in 2000-2002. However after leaving Bible School and desiring to get married… I was really lost with how to practice courtship , when neither of my parents really “got” the premise. After five years of trying to practice courtship, I reverted back to dating.

At the same time I was just coming to the conclusions written here on this blog. I wish I could say that I retained the same purify dating as I had done practicing courtship. I didn’t know where the lines were and in my ignorance, I crossed several lines into sin.

The simple version of where the lines are with being physical in dating, is that anything that involves the contact of your penis or your vagina is a sexual act. I know that leaves groping bums and boobs, but I can’t assert that touching those non-sexual areas to be sinful. I believe there’s a pretty clear line that our masculine and feminine sex organs are definitely the actual “no fly zones”.

If you’re man handling your boyfriend’s cock or balls ladies, that an area God reserved to be touched by his actual wife alone. And the same goes for the reverse gentlemen. That’s our sexual body parts and touching those sexual body parts is strictly forbidden, except for spouses. Any touching or intentionally manipulating of the penis or vagina constitutes “a sexual act”. Any sexual act falls under the wide umbrella of acts considered to be fornication in Scripture.

All sexual sins can be summed up in two to three categories.

Let’s start with the two categories from the Old Testament: sinful sexual acts and sinfully commiting the Act of Sex.

All physical sexual acts would always include: bestiality, homosexuality, incest, rape, as well as ALL sexual acts that are committed with someone that you are not married to. Touching someone’s penis or vagina with ANY part of your own body, orally sucking, licking or manipulation of someone else’s penis or vagina, and anal sex – any of these acts or any others that I failed to mention that are committed with anyone that you are not Biblically married to would constitute a “sexual act”.

The second kind of sexual sin listed in the Old Testament is committing the Act of Sex (also called the Act of Marriage) with anyone other than your husband or wife is called adultery.

So in the Old Testament we are told to refrain from all sexual acts AND the Act of Marriage with anyone with whom we are not married to.

In the New Testament, Jesus tells us in the Sermon on the Mount, to not even imagine committing ANY sexual act OR the Act of Marriage with anyone with whom we are not married to. Jesus took the physical restrictions and told us not only to refrain from doing them in the flesh but also in our own minds. This is called sexual lust, when we imagine doing a sexual act or the Act of Marriage with anyone who isn’t our betrothed before Almighty God. The Old Testament clean/unclean laws were done away with in the New Testament, but in one of the only ways that Jesus “upped” the moral laws; He forbids us from even imagining doing these sexual sins.

So although you could list many sexual sins, they all fall neatly into three basic categories: Sexual Acts, Committing the Act of Marriage out of Wedlock, and The Act of Lusting (committing those physical sexual sins in our thoughts).

Going back to our title; because homosexuality is a sexual act and can NEVER be The Act of Marriage (interchangeablely called the Act of Sex), NO homosexuals can EVER consummate a marriage as it’s meant to be consummated. The Act of Marriage requires a penis AND a vagina. It’s simple biology (though people today seem offended by the most simple and basic human biology today).

This isn’t to say that homosexual’s “vows” at the mock weddings of today are valid either. Marriage is an institution created by God Himself and He sets the moral rules as well as the physical rules of matrimony. Satan can only pervert what God creates. Satan can NEVER create some new and good. He can only twist and pervert what IS.

Foolish people can call homosexual “marriage” valid and true, but in the realm of Authority, the highest Authority gets to make the rules. God is Always the Ultimate Authority and His Revealed Word, The Holy Bible, is His Final and Unalterable Revelation of His Law and Will. The Bible never once honors the perversion of homosexuality and is not silent on the topic as He is on many other topics. He revealed His Will what defines marriage and what marriage is in this temporal life. These millions of people saying otherwise is utter pride, which oddly enough is the first reason given in the book of Ezekiel as to why God Himself destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah.

Look, this was the iniquity of your sister Sodom: She and her daughter had pride, fullness of food, and abundance of idleness; neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy. And they were haughty and committed abomination before Me; therefore I took them away as I saw fit.

Ezekiel 16:49-50

So besides going back to telling a little of my story of learning the difference between sexual acts and the Act of Marriage and reiterating what lust is: We can clearly see that even though things are referred to as “gay sex”, all homosexual acts are “sexual acts” and can never be The Act of Sex or Marriage. Besides knowing that homosexuals can never engage in the Act of Marriage, we also logically know why that they can never fulfill the Act of Marriage, which if never performed after an actual wedding, those involved can never consummate the Marriage before God and mankind. Not only are homosexual “wedding” vows unattainable in the sight of a Holy and Loving God, but the second requirement for a marriage to be consummated in a Holy physical act in the sight of God can NEVER be consummated. The Act of Marriage always requires a penis AND a vagina.

The “champions” of perversion and gross immorality and pride can call a pig in a wedding dress a bride or groom until Jesus returns for His Bride, The Church, BUT calling a homosexual “marriage” real or legitimate in any way will NEVER make it real or legitimate in even the tiniest detail. Like calling men, “she” or “her” will never change biology or the Truth, though everyone on the planet agrees or disagrees. God’s Word is the Truth and it’s precious, unalterable and Holy.

Biblical Sexuality

After I graduated from Bible College, I began questioning all my beliefs as a fundamental Christian.

I had been taught to base my worldview upon the clear teachings of the Bible, but some important doctrines (teachings or beliefs) seemed difficult to find resolution. Many people “use” the Bible to justify whatever they choose to believe. But a true biblical worldview is when we change our beliefs to fit what the Bible actually does and doesn’t say.

I am an American and in America drinking alcohol of any kind has been strongly forbidden by most all of the fundamental Protestant Churches. One of the first cracks in my worldview came during a class that the topic of alcohol came up. A fellow student who came from France voiced that in Europe, many Christians and Churches didn’t view drinking alcohol as a sin as the Churches and Christians in America did so adamantly.

Even though now, it’s much clearer for me to see that the Bible is very favorable to the idea of drinking alcohol… at the time it was a very difficult subject. It’s very difficult to stand against the established church on a particular doctrine, especially ones that are so dearly argued as the doctrine of drinking wine, beer or strong drinks is here in America. It’s very difficult to even question such strongly held doctrines, much less to see things differently than the vast majority of your peers and elders.

However, as I listened to my fellow student and realized that the doctrine against imbibing alcohol wasn’t the same in every country or even continent, it got me thinking.

I slowly began searching the scriptures about alcohol.

At the time, this crack in my worldview, led me to start questioning a few other strongly held doctrines.

Honestly, I didn’t have a great desire to try alcohol, so I didn’t start devouring the Scriptures in search of a resolution to the question of the doctrine of whether drinking alcohol is a sin or not. I did however, have a strong sexual desire as any person, men especially, to enjoy masturbation. I had sat through many accountability groups where men confessed their struggles dealing with masturbation, and like ever man who was trying to serve God, I had struggled with masturbating since I hit puberty. I didn’t even struggle with actual lust at the time (imagining myself and a woman committing any kind of sexual act). I did struggle with lust when I first hit puberty, but I had prayed through and repented and God had helped me to stop sinning. However, I struggled very much still with the simple but pleasurable act of masturbation.

So, in light of almost ten years of struggling not to masturbate by the time that I had finished Bible school, I finally decided after hearing the French student question a beloved doctrine, that I would actually look what the scriptures said about masturbation. I had struggled with this “sin” for almost ten years and had heard many fellow Christian men who were very much trying to live the Christian life in a way that pleased God by following the clear teachings of Scripture, also confess to struggling with this same act.

Also, around the same time, I had read the Christian book, “The Sexual Man”, and in the closing chapters the author, Dr. Archibald Hart, either openly praised the act of masturbation or he at the very least didn’t condemn it (though I do think he endorsed it). This also gave me some hope that maybe the act of pleasuring yourself sexually wasn’t actually a sin. I do like to thoroughly base my worldview on the clear teachings of the Bible. The Bible is the glorious and wonderful instructions of God…indeed the very Word of God. Despite what some may say, there is no basis that you can be a Christian yet choose not to live your life according to the precious Word of God. The Bible is the very thing that we build the Christian worldview upon!

So from some perspective from a fellow student that all “taught” doctrines might not actually line up with the clear teachings of Scripture, and from a well known Christian author(not Christian in name but not in deed, but to my knowledge, an actual Christian or follower of Jesus)…it set my heart on a search to see what the Bible actually says about what to me at the time, was the terrible and shameful sin of masturbation.

It took me a few months to a year to really come to the firm conviction that masturbation is definitely not a sin. (For the time being, we’ll leave out the other teachings or doctrine against nudity and pornography.). I’m talking about flat out simply masturbation, without even imagining a naked woman. Just the simple pleasurable act of masturbation.

How did I come to so clearly and definitely changing my doctrine?

The Bible doesn’t even mention, much less condemn, the act of masturbation! There isn’t even a mention! Nothing! How do millions of people past and present come to the conclusion that the Bible, which is the foundation or the source of the 100% absolute Truth, and the very foundation of the Biblical or Christian worldview, come to such an adamant stance about something that the Bible doesn’t even mention?

I have absolute no idea where this idea began, except in my opinion as a tool for the devil to make Christianity seem stricter than it actually is, and thus turn away men and women seeking the truth by making living the Christian life much harder than it actually is!

Now I have heard from a very small and simple story, ominously called “The Sin of Onan” that is found in the book of Genesis, chapter 39, a very twisted attempt (looking back) at misconstruing an act that God designed for our joy and pleasure.

Different cultures have different ways of life. In Onan’s culture, it was a custom, that if you’re brother died and was married but didn’t have children, that you would be obligated to marry your widowed Sister-in-Law and have children by her who would take your deceased brother’s name and thus legacy.

Polygamy was very common at that time as well, that’s another reason that a brother could take a deceased brother’s wife and raise children in his brother’s name, even if you were married already to another woman, so that those children could continue your brother’s legacy and name but also so that they could help take care of their mother (your widowed Sister in Law turned wife) as she older. Women were taken care of by their husbands, or father, father-in-law, or male children back then. So this kept a lasting legacy to your brother’s name and memory but also provided for the woman. God’s way’s always love, honor and protect.

Anyway, Onan, wanted to have his fun but not perform his obligation (to God, to his deceased brother, or to his Sister-in-Law turned wife). He married and had sex with his new bride, but he tried the “pull out” method of birth control. Today, we know that that is not a great option for birth control, but God was looking at Onan’s heart. He, for whatever reason, wanted to have sex with his new wife but not do right by her or by God. God punished Onan. That’s a whole different discussion for why God punished Onan so strongly, but the simple version is that Onan was the son of Judah, who was Jacob’s ( or otherwise known as Israel) son. Jesus, the Messiah and Saviour of the World was born through the bloodline of Judah. That’s why Jesus is called the Lion of the tribe of Judah. So the short version was that I believe that God punished Onan so severely because Onan’s selfishness and wicked heart was actually messing with the bloodline of Jesus Christ.

The Bible says that Onan basically “pulled out” and spilled his seed or his semen on the ground.

There’s absolutely nothing to do with masturbation in this very short story. Onan was rebellious and wicked. He didn’t want to honor God, his own dead brother or his new wife. The Bible doesn’t say that if anyone “spills their semen” or seed on the ground or the sheets or wherever!…that he has commited any sin whatsoever.

This story in my life of how I came to start questioning each of my beliefs and holding them up against what the Bible actually does and doesn’t say, is how I started down this road to creating this blog. Have you had a similar experience? What were you taught in a Godly Christian home or a Godly Bible based church about masturbation? I would love to hear from you.

To my faithful blog followers, thanks for your patience. My life has been down a very dark road for the last several years, starting really almost ten years ago, but culminating in the last year or two in much heart ache. I went through one of those time when you question if God is really there or if He really cares and your faith and heart are sorely tested. But God is faithful, even though life isn’t fair. It’s been a long dark road but He’s bringing me back out into the light and sunshine again. For anyone who’s prayed for me during this dark time…all I can say is…Thank You with all my heart. As Christians we must stand together and care about each other. I care about each of you who take the time to comment and talk about the Bible and Sexuality. Anyways, thanks again for your patience for everyone who’s still following.