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The Act of Sex

I find there’s a good deal of confusion between the Act of Marriage or the Act of Sex and “sexual acts”.

The Act of Sex is simply when a man and a woman have vaginal sex. This is the actual Act of Sex. Without this act of the man penetrating his wife with his penis, No marriage is complete. If a couple doesn’t consummate their marriage, usually on the wedding night, then it is possible to have a marriage annulled – like the ceremony never happened.

Many cultures would wait outside the room, after a wedding, and check the sheets to verify (by the breaking of the hymen and subsequent bleeding) that the act of Marriage had taken place.

Technically, a true marriage covenant, requires BOTH a public ceremony of lifelong commitment before God and man AND The Act of Marriage (vaginal intercourse). This Act is only possible between One Man and One Woman.

This seems to be a prominent source of confusion in our day. However, the Act of Sex (or Marriage) is always considered the joining together of the penis and the vagina. Whereas sexual acts include all other forms of touching genitals with another person or animal (bestiality…gross!).

Whereas, sexual acts are ANY kind of healthy OR sinful sexual act that involves a penis or a vagina to contact any other human (or even animal). Sexual acts include oral sex, simply touching the sexual organ of another human being, anal sex, hand jobs, as well as the always deviant homosexual acts, bestiality, molestation, rape, etc.

This is a very important distinction and very important to remember.

sexual acts

Do you struggle with lust? One of the reasons that I started this site was to explore the difference between watching nudity and sex… without imagining ourselves performing sexual acts with anyone who isn’t our spouse.

I did really well for about 12 years, but as my marriage disintegrated…i found myself imagining myself having sexual encounters with my therapist at the time, because I could sense she liked me as a Man… while it turned out that my wife loathed me in her heart for loving Jesus more than her (or anyone… kinda the heart of being a true Christian)

Rachel from Wow Girls

I slowly got things back to holiness and have struggled off and on over the last 12 years… even though it really does help knowing where the ‘line’ is and what lust actually is.

Do you struggle with lust often, or can you truly savor and enjoy sexuality and pornography and nudity without lusting after the women…or men if you are a woman?